I held the phone close to my ear and couldn’t believe the words I was hearing on the other end.

“I just can’t do this anymore. I don’t know what it is, but I just have to back away from this friendship right now. I have no reason.”

This was the first time as an adult I had ever been dumped by a friend. I was absolutely devastated.

I had poured my heart and soul into this friendship and for her this was done. The fact that she couldn’t give me a reason made it so much worse in my mind.

I laid in bed night after night wondering what I had done wrong and what was wrong with me. I went over every flaw meticulously examining myself.

Was I too much?

Too intense?

Too needy?

Did I say something that was offensive and she just wouldn’t tell me? I did have a big mouth at times.

I wish I could tell you this conversation in my head went on for a few days or weeks and then I just decided to move on.

Sadly, I carried this rejection with me into every new friendship for years. I was always scared of being me. Scared I would be too much, or not enough or a little of both.

Always worried I would say something to make them walk away.

Because really, when we are rejected by others, (parent, friend, boyfriend, whomever) the message we are hearing is this:

There is something dreadfully wrong with you and no one will ever stay. 

Though I was fearful, God brought new friendships into my life. And as time went on and these women loved me for me, the scar remained from my past rejection but, it began fading.

This is what I’ve learned about people and rejection:

*People are fickle and will reject you and some will not stay. (they aren’t suppose to). 

*The people that are meant to be in your life will stay and will love you with all your quirks, flaws and all. (and they actually kinda like them).

Friend hear this from me and know I speak the truth:

You may not be someone’s cup of tea, but, you are definitely someone else’s Caramel Macchiato with extra whip cream and a double shot of espresso. 

And friend most of all, we have a Savior that will never, ever, leave. A friend that sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24)

This scripture can help heal us from past rejections, present or future.

Ephesians 3:16-19

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge–that you may be filled to all the fullness of God.

Friend–I don’t know if you have past rejections you are dealing with or maybe you are dealing with one right now, can I share with you what I told the teenagers the other night when we spoke about this subject?

Take this scripture and memorize it, (paste it to your forehead if you have to) and know that you have a Savior whose love can reach into every corner of your broken heart.

Take any rejection you have and lay it down at the Father’s feet.  Ask the Father to heal you and to help you not carry it into your future relationships.

And go get yourself a coffee with extra whip cream spilling over and ask the Father to do the same with His love.

And God’s word promises this:

His love is wide, long, high and deep and it never fails to do the job.

*Here is the piece I wrote for the teens. Feel free to print and share it!

*Today I am linking up http://www.jaimewiebel.com/ at Sitting Among Friends! Check out her site she has some great stuff on there and you will also find other amazing bloggers!

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